Clear the ground
DAYS 1–30
Look at what changed, who is here, and where your attention belongs.
BY MONTREY JONES
Rebuild
Your Circle
90 Days to Reconnect, Meet New People, and Build a Social Life That Fits Who You Are Now
A practical 90-day guided workbook for adults whose relationships changed as life did.
This is not a book to finish and put away. It gives you questions to sit with, room to write, and actions to try in your own life.
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THREE PHASES
A little clarity.
Then something to do with it.
Choose + place
DAYS 31–60
Consider people, places, and routines that fit the life you actually have.
Show up + bridge
DAYS 61–90
Work on contact, invitations, and the follow-through that gives a relationship room to grow.
For adults across genders and stages of life.
You don’t have to start with no friends.
You don’t have to want a huge circle.
A move. A demanding schedule. A changing routine. Or simply wanting to be more intentional about the people already in your life.
TWO REAL PAGES
Real pages. Readable examples.
Read these two selected workbook pages. Open an image for a closer look, or expand its text alternative. The complete workbook is not a free download.
BOOK PAGE 17
The Phone Test
Notice who comes to mind before you open your contacts.
Read the page as text
17
THE PHONE TEST
Before checking your contacts or social media, answer from memory.
IF SOMETHING GREAT HAPPENED TODAY, WHO ARE THE FIRST FIVE PEOPLE OUTSIDE
MY HOUSEHOLD I WOULD WANT TO TELL?
1. ____________________________________
2. ____________________________________
3. ____________________________________
4. ____________________________________
5. ____________________________________
IF SOMETHING DIFFICULT HAPPENED, WHO WOULD I CALL?
1. ____________________________________
2. ____________________________________
3. ____________________________________
4. ____________________________________
5. ____________________________________
IF I WANTED TO DO SOMETHING THIS SATURDAY, WHO WOULD I REALISTICALLY
CONTACT?
1. ____________________________________
2. ____________________________________
3. ____________________________________
4. ____________________________________
5. ____________________________________
Now you can look at your phone if you want.
WHAT DO I NOTICE?
________________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________________
Are there many names I would never realistically contact? Yes / No / Somewhat
Are there people who matter to me who did not come to mind? Yes / No
Are the same one or two people carrying almost every category? Yes / No
A CONTACT LIST SHOWS ACCESS. THIS EXERCISE SHOWS
RELATIONSHIP.
BOOK PAGE 123
The Room Test
Consider whether a place is somewhere you could realistically return.
Read the page as text
123
DAY 42
THE ROOM TEST
ROOM 1
Place / activity: ______________________________
I genuinely enjoy the activity. ____ / 5
I could realistically return. ____ / 5
Some of the same people are likely to return. ____ / 5
The environment allows interaction. ____ / 5
The cost is sustainable. ____ / 5
The distance is realistic. ____ / 5
It fits my schedule. ____ / 5
I would feel reasonably welcome. ____ / 5
TOTAL: ______ / 40
Now ask the question that matters more than the score:
WOULD I ACTUALLY GO?
Yes / No / Maybe
Choose a place from your Social Opportunity Map. Rate each statement from 1 (not
true) to 5 (very true).
Need a completed example?
See the scored Room Test on page 295.
There’s more room to work in the book.
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BEFORE YOU START
A few good questions.
How is a guided workbook different from a regular book?
You do more than read. The sample pages show short readings, questions, and space for written exercises. The book is intended to support reflection and practical action. You can pause, return to a page, and work at your own pace.
Will I have a new circle in exactly 90 days?
No workbook can guarantee that. Ninety days is the structure, not a deadline for other people to become your friends. Your situation, choices, and other people’s interest all matter.
Is this only for outgoing people?
No. The aim is not to turn you into somebody else. A smaller circle or quieter social life can fit you perfectly well.
Is this therapy?
No. This is an educational and reflective workbook. Montrey is an author, not a therapist. It is not clinical treatment or a substitute for professional support.
Can I read a sample without joining an email list?
Yes. The two sample pages above are open to everyone, with text alternatives. Buying the book never requires a newsletter signup. Extended media or event review material is shared separately by request.
Can I use the pages to run a group or workshop?
Reading a sample or buying a copy does not include a separate group-reproduction or workshop-materials license. Ask about the use you have in mind; permissions depend on the material and setting. This does not limit uses allowed by law.
Where do I buy it?
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THE RECONNECT STARTER KIT · FREE
One person.
One message.
Somewhere to start.
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